The Fork in the Road.

"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference."
Robert Frost, "The Road Not Taken".

The other day my Dad and I were discussing "life". Yeah, quite a big subject, really. But it seemed my Dad, after 80 years on the planet, had distilled his view of life down to one governing imperative, and that was that our existence is mostly dictated by chance or coincidence. He dislikes the term "fate" because, he said, for him, it had associations with bad things happening to people. So, he relayed to me how the result of his own very colourful life had been mostly a matter of chance.
Firstly, I should perhaps explain that my Dad has indeed had an eventful existence. Joining the army at 15, he went on to fight in the Korean war. After that, having trained in the army as an engineer, he got various jobs working in that capacity. Employed by people such as "Marconi", his job took him to many different places, and he lived in both Germany and Turkey, as well as spending time in Brazil. In fact, I remember very well the photograph in which you can see my Dad standing atop the Sugarloaf Mountain, sporting a pair of the widest checked flairs you could ever wish to see. In fact, I wonder if he still has that particular pair of brilliant trousers- maybe I could wear them to a fancy dress party.
But, to return to the point, my Dad has often told me stories about how his life could have been so very different. The time, for example, during the Korean war, when he was sitting in a bunker with nothing to do at that particular time, and so was called over to the adjoining shelter by some other soldiers who were playing cards. As my Dad wasn't doing anything, he went over to them to join the game. Five minutes later, a shell hit directly where my Dad had been sitting, completely demolishing that part of the bunker. So, had my Dad not moved over to the others, he would, quite simply, have died. Now, he would perhaps be just another name on a wall somewhere, and I and my brother would not exist. Perhaps less dramatically, but nonetheless important, were times when my Dad turned down jobs, once in Germany, and once, I believe, to go and work in Mauritius. On both these occasions, he explained, had he taken up those positions, life would have been incredibly different. Had he taken the job in Germany, for example, he would perhaps never have met my Mum, and again, me and my brother would not be here.
All this, inevitably, got me to thinking about my own life, and how things could have been different. Although I have nothing as colourful to relay as is in my Dad's past, I do remember times when only if I had said or done a certain thing, my life could have been wholly changed. Had I only spoken out at certain times, I may well be married by now, with children. And, in terms of my own life, it seems that these would not have been big, dramatic events like in my Dad's, but only very small things, perhaps even just nuances in the way something was explained or said, that could have resulted in a very different existence.
I am reminded, then, of the film "Sliding Doors", in which the character played by Gwyneth Paltrow is seen either missing or catching an underground train in London. From these two different occurrences, the difference between which seems mere chance, two entirely different realities emerge. Similarly, in the recent film, "Source Code", the possibility that such divergent realities can exist is explored.
So, in my alternate reality, there is a man, standing on a beach. He seems deep in thought as he watches the waves of the sea ebb and flow. And then, two young children come up to greet him, and it soon becomes apparent that he is their father. A second later, a woman comes up to him and embraces him in her arms.
OK, so my alternate reality may be a little idealised. But, it seems, we will all face, at some point, that fork in the road. That point at which a decision will be made, or simply something said or done, or not said, or not done, which will ultimately alter our lives and send us down paths the end to which it will be hard to imagine. Take care, then, in this endeavor, for, as the poet Robert Frost stated, it could make "all the difference".  


bazza said…
Hello David. Your father appears to have accumulated much wisdom through his eventful life, but I might be thinking that just because I agree with his view of fate. If our lives were pre-determined there would never be any point in taking a decision!
Incidentally, I posted a blog about this poem here.
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David said…
Dear bazza,
Thanks for your comment.
Yes, my Dad is indeed a wise, old geezer. We don't usually hold such "deep" conversations, though, and it was nice to hear both about his life and views.
I have been over to your post on the Frost poem, and it provided an interesting background.
Thanks once again,
klahanie said…
Dear David,
Your father has had a most eventful life and this made for fascinating reading.
Indeed, if your father had not been called over to that adjoining shelter, there's a strong likelihood that I would not be reading your posting or had the great delight in meeting your wise and noble self.
With very best wishes, Gary.
David said…
Dear Gary,
Yes, indeed, the vagaries of chance!
And just imagine a world without me. What a depressing place it would be!
Yours with Very Best Wishes,
dcrelief said…
Dear David,
I enjoyed your post. It's great that people can share their thoughts on life, the universe and everything.

If our blinders are off, we can glean so much that helps us grow and thrive. Thank you, and your Father for sharing.

Kind regards,
David said…
Dear Dixie,
Thanks again for commenting, and it is nice that we can share all this stuff with others.
Life, the universe, and everything, eh. If only it all made sense! Then again, that would be no fun at all, would it?
Yours with Very Best Wishes,
Jean said…
Wonderful story. My father-in-law was bumped from a plane by Glen Miller. That plane went down with no survivors. If he'd flown I'd never met and married his son.
David said…
Dear Jean,
I know the Glen Miller "story", and that's quite a claim to fame your father-in-law has.
Funny how things turn out, isn't it?
Thank you for taking the time to comment.
With Very Best Wishes,

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